It’s so easy to fall into the victim mentality! I have done it too many times to count.  The issue with that mindset is that it keeps you hostage. You can’t move on with a victim mindset. You can’t create any good around you with that mindset.  Again, I have been there! Here’s what I have done to break free from thinking and feeling like a victim.

Don’t dwell on the negatives. Yes, your spouse, your children, your friends/family, and your co-workers will offend you at least once, even if it is an accident. It happens to all of us. However, dwelling on the situation, repeating what happened or what someone may have said to you over and over again will only make matters worse. So, it happened, you share with a person or two, and move on!  

Give grace. We are all full of flaws. Your family, friends, co-workers, yes, even your mate.  Give them grace when they make mistakes. So he or she was extremely insensitive or disrespectful.  It hurts, I get it. However, remind yourself, they are humans too and they will make mistakes. Give them grace!  

My mom tells me regularly that I should focus on the good parts of my husband.  I encourage you to do the same with everyone around you. Focus on the positive will help you to get out of feeling like a victim and instead you will feel victorious!!

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